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Jun 9, 2021Liked by Abigail Shrier

This is the scariest thing I have ever read. Thanks so much for doing this work. I have a 12 YO daughter that is great, confident, and doesn't have any issues right now. But, I know I read these stories that other girls were fine and one day, then they are bullied, or just lack confidence and get sucked in......and I now I at least feel informed. I am older mom, I grew up in the 80's, this was not even remotely on the radar of being an issue. I really cannot believe how/what/why this is occurring. But I blame Pharma and our lawmakers for NOT protecting our children. This needs to stop.

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Jun 9, 2021Liked by Abigail Shrier

Related, though not exactly: Many therapists are a threat to even young adults' relationships with their families. There is a vast therapeutic trend to simply destroy intergenerational, family relationships and easily tens of thousands of young people, with vague accusations of abuse, now estrange themselves from loving parents. Therapists are guiding these estrangements, often helping young, adult children write letters, permanently cutting parents out of their lives.

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Jun 9, 2021Liked by Abigail Shrier

It's a terrifying piece, but it needs to be read far and wide. You are invaluable Abigail!

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Jun 9, 2021Liked by Abigail Shrier

Excellent work, as always, AS!

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Thank you for advocating for confused teenage girls.

I just listened to your interview with Jordan Peterson. At 16:45 you ask “Where are the women in their 30's, 40's, 50's and 60's who were denied the opportunity to come out as transgender? They should be coming out too but they're not.”

About that: Thank God I was a teenager in the 1970's rather than today! If this had been something available then, I would have gone this route and it would have been a big mistake! What I needed was healing and self acceptance- healing from sexual traumas from my female vulnerability (there's this drive to obliterate that which made/makes me vulnerable), and self acceptance of aspects of myself that were not typically female (math geek).

I see this movement as deeply anti-woman- encouraging teenage girls to eliminate their femininity as a route to peace. Genital mutilation is indeed irreversible harm.

Erikson's stages of development Stage 5 Psychosocial Crisis/Task for teens is "Identity vs Confusion- Teenagers work at refining a sense of self by testing roles and then integrating them to form a single identity, or they become confused about who they are." The culture is pushing girls to embrace the confusion rather than navigate the surging hormones into a powerful and joyful female identity.

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Any advice for finding a good therapist?

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Funny to come across this today because I recently resigned my position as director of a youth shelter in part due to these exact issues. As an insider in the field I can confirm Abigail’s reporting here 100%.

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As always, the truth is worse. Grace Lavery (a UC Berkeley professor) has actually called for the book ('Irreversible Damage') to be burned (safely of course). See https://www.rt.com/usa/506758-uc-berkeley-lavery-book-burning-trans/ for an image of Grace Lavery calling for the book to be (safely) burned.

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This is very important for parents and teachers as well as anyone who says they care about our kids. I know this is in the US context, but I am concerned that it will go the same way here in the UK. As a teacher of kids with SEN I was disturbed when I heard the numbers a few years ago because in 15 years teaching some very complex kids,I have never met a child that wanted to be another gender. I am also a parent of two girls aged 24 and 21 and a son aged 10. I'm an aunt to several others kids and also never heard it from them or any kid in the community, even when I was a child. I grew up and had most of my experience in "difficult" or "troubled" neighbourhoods and schools. I met gay children but never trans kids. I just couldn't understand where they all came from all of a sudden. Seeing your interview with Jordan Peterson today I totally understand now. I don;t have a huge audience (which prbaby helps given the censorship going on) but I plan to cover it in my podcast in coming weeks after listening to your interview and talk on Youtube. What else can we as parents, teachers and citizens do to raise more awareness of this?

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Abigail I would like to get in contact with you. Regarding the gender confusion. I want to share something with you I have come across. How do I get in contact?

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Thank you for doing this piece Abigail, very difficult to read but more people need to understand what is at stake here and how quickly people we should be able to trust, medical practitioners, are willing to press the 'I believe button" and send them off to gender affirmation therapy.

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Can you advise about laws in Indiana please?

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Where are the FGM warriors? Why isn’t anyone fighting against mutilation of American children and arresting the surgeons?

In the flip side, and sick side...do you think that social justice warriors think they are really saving these children from their parents? I believe they have unresolved childhood trauma that they are trying to resolve by “ saving” future children from the rejection they experienced. So many of them!!!

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Hi all, I was reading through these stories yesterday and can't remember where I saw a comment suggesting that the teenager girls discussed here have Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). The reasoning seemed to be that the young girls had a fragile or changing sense of self, so they might have BPD. I understand the reasoning there but it really is not appropriate for teenagers, especially young teenagers. Kids this age have an unsure sense of self by definition. During adolescence, teenagers experiment with different identities. That's normal in our culture and also why swift gender transitions can be so dangerous. The child involved may simply be exploring an identity that she will later discard.

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It's not easy for men, either. When we're told that it's abnormal to express emotion, we tend to believe it. When our churches tell us we have to enter marriage completely "pure" (virgin), who is there to say, "Hogwash"?

They talk as if there were NO forgiveness of sexual sin. The only advice they give us is, "Don't do it before marriage", and that simply isn't enough.

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Now would be a good time for parents to learn about the theft of their sons and daughters, their property, by means of birth certificates and things like marriages. It's like registering a vehicle with the state, you are relinquishing ownership by doing so. By getting married (legally, outside of common law), you are giving the state majority ownership of your sons and daughters.

This is a touchy subject, especially for anyone unfamiliar with the notion that their living sons and daughters could be considered property, but it's fact.

All of these statutes and fake laws ONLY apply to wards of the state, or persons. Had any of these parents decided to go without a birth certificate and social security numbers for their sons and daughters, the state would never be able to do anything with their property.

Christopher James, and Alphonse Faggiolo have a wealth of information on the subject.

Anyone can find them on YouTube or telegram. My son will be born without a birth certificate in a few months.

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