144 Comments
Dec 22, 2023Liked by Abigail Shrier

Abigail, you're onto something. After my parent's nasty divorce, they placed ME in therapy. It's hard to quantify how damaging it was. Suddenly I felt like everything was my fault, that I was weird, that I was different. I loathed myself. As my terrible home life got worse, I was alternately diagnosed as having antisocial personality disorder AND bipolar disorder. These were the trendy diagnoses before the trans craze.

Funny thing happened after I was on my own and out of therapy: turns out there was nothing wrong with me. I am successful and (usually) happy, no thanks to my parents and the string of incompetent and greedy psychologists and psychiatrists that followed.

Expand full comment
Dec 22, 2023Liked by Abigail Shrier

Gee, your experience sounds equally as awful as mine was. As a teenager I was forced by my dis functional divorced parents into meeting up with all kinds of nutty unethical psychotherapists and psychiatrists. In reality I was just struggling in a completely normal way as a girl trying to make do in a completely messed up family system. The “mental health professionals” proceeded to label me with all kinds of incorrect diagnosis which I simply did not meet the diagnostic criteria for. Eventually I left them all in the dust and never looked back. By then I was just older and more mature. I quickly figured out how to solve my own problems and proceeded to get married, live a normal life, and raise a happy well adjusted child. Main lesson I learned.... do not ever go near a “mental health professional “ and keep them away from your children.

Expand full comment
author

I so appreciate this comment. Thank you, Ann.

Expand full comment

Sounds like our experiences were very similar. It was quackery. Sad to hear that children are even more vulnerable than ever, with more harmful diagnoses and treatment. At least no one put me on testosterone or tried to surgically change my gender.

Expand full comment

Well, if the shrink had told you that you were fine, he’d lose a customer….

Expand full comment

So resonates with a friends experience - 16 years with a psychiatrist that did next to nothing to stop self-harm— always knew it was more a matter of a brilliant person seeing the injustice in a world determined to pretend that was crazy instead of true. When my friend realized that she was smarter than the psych, she just got on with it and has led a fulfilling life with no further self-harm and a career of service to others (though NOT in the mental health field).

Expand full comment

I have had some personal interaction with mental health professionals and consider in general they are more insane than the people they are supposedly trying to help.

These are a few anagrams of 'mental health professional'.

fame hellhole porn Satanist

feel help hormonal Satanist

freemasons hip lethal talon

Expand full comment
author

What an incredible story, Dave. Thank you so much for sharing it.

Expand full comment

I seem to remember reading an argument that the success rate for psychiatrists was about the same as traditional African witch "doctors" ... Though those scare quotes might also be reasonably applied to many in the first group.

Whole bunch of "doctors" in this clusterfuck who should lose their licenses -- if not be strung up by their nuts and left to twist in the wind -- once the dust settles.

Expand full comment

The Jewish Pioneers of Sexual Degeneracy in 1920s Berlin . . . by Michael Walsh . . .

IN 1919, Magnus Hirschfeld and Arthur Kronfeld, founded the “Institut für Sexualwissenschaft” (Institute for ‘Sexual Research’) in Berlin. Both were active in the German Communist Party and were prominent members of Berlin’s Jewish community.

A multitude of degenerate services were offered at the institute, including the first surgical sex changes in modern history, abortions, lectures and ‘sex counseling’, room rentals, a large library of pornography and erotic literature on every possible perversion (including bestiality and pedophilia), and a Museum of Sex featuring a wide array of homosexual fetish items, dildos, “masturbation machines”, etc.

The institute hosted tens of thousands of visitors each year, including school class field trips. Hirschfeld was a notorious sodomite, popularly known in the Berlin gay scene by his cross-dresser name Tante Magnesia.

He also founded a committee for gay rights and wrote and published many degenerate books and journals, including Jahrbuch für Sexuelle Zwischenstufen (Yearbook for Intermediate Sexual Types). In fact, he’s the sinister figure that coined the term ‘transvestite’. Hirschfeld campaigned to end the Berlin police department’s arrest of cross-dressers and prostitutes . . .

https://nationalvanguard.org/2019/06/the-jewish-pioneers-of-sexual-degeneracy-in-1920s-berlin/

Expand full comment

"Medical science has made such tremendous progress that there is hardly a healthy human left." -- Aldous Huxley

Expand full comment

LoL. You may remember the Ballad of Sigmund Freud by the Chad Mitchell Trio:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5d7O5no7W6k

https://genius.com/The-chad-mitchell-trio-the-ballad-of-sigmund-freud-lyrics

"Well, it started in Vienna not so many years ago

When not enough folks were getting sick

That a starving young physician tried to better his position

By discovering what made his patients tick

He forgot about sclerosis and invented the psychosis

And a hundred ways that sex could be enjoyed

He adopted as his credo, 'Down repression, up libido!'

And that was the start of Doctor Sigmund Freud"

Expand full comment

The Jewish Pioneers of Sexual Degeneracy in 1920s Berlin . . . by Michael Walsh . . .

IN 1919, Magnus Hirschfeld and Arthur Kronfeld, founded the “Institut für Sexualwissenschaft” (Institute for ‘Sexual Research’) in Berlin. Both were active in the German Communist Party and were prominent members of Berlin’s Jewish community.

A multitude of degenerate services were offered at the institute, including the first surgical sex changes in modern history, abortions, lectures and ‘sex counseling’, room rentals, a large library of pornography and erotic literature on every possible perversion (including bestiality and pedophilia), and a Museum of Sex featuring a wide array of homosexual fetish items, dildos, “masturbation machines”, etc.

The institute hosted tens of thousands of visitors each year, including school class field trips. Hirschfeld was a notorious sodomite, popularly known in the Berlin gay scene by his cross-dresser name Tante Magnesia.

He also founded a committee for gay rights and wrote and published many degenerate books and journals, including Jahrbuch für Sexuelle Zwischenstufen (Yearbook for Intermediate Sexual Types). In fact, he’s the sinister figure that coined the term ‘transvestite’. Hirschfeld campaigned to end the Berlin police department’s arrest of cross-dressers and prostitutes . . .

https://nationalvanguard.org/2019/06/the-jewish-pioneers-of-sexual-degeneracy-in-1920s-berlin/

Expand full comment

Such prescience about our own era in this Huxley quote notwithstanding the fact that medical science has also made huge advances in the treatment of bacterial diseases and cancer etc. The prescience is his foreseeing how what Abigail calls the bad feelings industry got hold of a seductive snake oil.....a delusory prospect of offering a 'cure' for plain ordinary human unhappiness.

Expand full comment

As regards cancer sadly the only advance medical science has made is to cause cancer to increase by promoting big pharma poisons as 'treatments'. Big pharma use statistics to try and show they do help but like everything big pharma it is smoke and mirrors.

I have had my own experience of what is called cancer and immuno-therapy.

https://baldmichael.substack.com/p/sodium-nitrite-e250-the-poison-in

Expand full comment

Sadly, most of my family perished of their cancers within a year of diagnosis.

But a cousin lasted 15 years after a diagnosis of stage-IV metastatic breast cancer. Two oncologists said there was nothing to be done for her, but a third said, "I think we can work together."

And work they did. It wasn't always easy, but those 15 years were good ones for my cousin. Her oncologist cared about her. I am grateful to her and to Big Pharma.

Expand full comment

Reading about what was done to Chloe Cole and other confused and misguided children infuriates me. I’m glad brave people like Abigail Shrier are drawing attention to this. We need a societal reckoning, the sooner the better.

Expand full comment

People don't realize how broken, corrupt, and full of pseudoscience and baseless pop psychology the entire field of therapy is. There's a real need for therapy for some people, but the vast majority of those practicing it right now don't have the training or skills needed to do it properly and are causing more harm than good.

Expand full comment

Defining what “proper therapy” is reveals part of the problem.

Expand full comment

Thank you for protecting our daughters. We must remain vigilant against Manson family-style cult behavior that involves love bombing, obedience, and mutilation. What is the best way to protect women’s sports and spaces? https://yuribezmenov.substack.com/p/how-to-save-womens-sports-riley-gaines

Expand full comment

The Jewish Pioneers of Sexual Degeneracy in 1920s Berlin . . . by Michael Walsh . . .

IN 1919, Magnus Hirschfeld and Arthur Kronfeld, founded the “Institut für Sexualwissenschaft” (Institute for ‘Sexual Research’) in Berlin. Both were active in the German Communist Party and were prominent members of Berlin’s Jewish community.

A multitude of degenerate services were offered at the institute, including the first surgical sex changes in modern history, abortions, lectures and ‘sex counseling’, room rentals, a large library of pornography and erotic literature on every possible perversion (including bestiality and pedophilia), and a Museum of Sex featuring a wide array of homosexual fetish items, dildos, “masturbation machines”, etc.

The institute hosted tens of thousands of visitors each year, including school class field trips. Hirschfeld was a notorious sodomite, popularly known in the Berlin gay scene by his cross-dresser name Tante Magnesia.

He also founded a committee for gay rights and wrote and published many degenerate books and journals, including Jahrbuch für Sexuelle Zwischenstufen (Yearbook for Intermediate Sexual Types). In fact, he’s the sinister figure that coined the term ‘transvestite’. Hirschfeld campaigned to end the Berlin police department’s arrest of cross-dressers and prostitutes . . .

https://nationalvanguard.org/2019/06/the-jewish-pioneers-of-sexual-degeneracy-in-1920s-berlin/

Expand full comment

Both of my sons were diagnosed with anxiety and depression as children and both have owned these labels. Had I known that behavioral counselors were only making them worse, I would never have used them. Now that they're adults, I don't know how to drag them both back to healthy. My oldest son's anxiety is so crippling that he's never had a paying job and lives off of disability. It's very real. I need a book "Gen Z was given a mental health diagnosis, and you shouldn't buy into it anymore".

Expand full comment

I wonder if someone like John Rosemond could be helpful? He’s a psychologist who speaks against his profession a lot. The APA (I think that’s the right acronym) attempted to remove his license because he doesn’t go along with their current crap (for lack of a better term). He’s a very down to earth, practical, “old school” type. He’s the person I’d first think to look toward — if I weren’t completely turned off from psychology altogether.

Expand full comment

Thank you. I’ll check him out.

Expand full comment

Second John Rosemond.

Expand full comment

Cure: get off the sideline, get in the fvcking game, grow up, get a job, be independent.

Worked for my kid.

Expand full comment
Dec 23, 2023·edited Dec 23, 2023

As I read this I thought that it was spot on but did not relate to our particular family experience until I got to:

"For well over a decade, teachers and school counselors have assumed the mandate (and curricula, and use of instructional time) to play shrink indiscriminately with kids, often styled as “Social Emotional Learning.”"

Yes! The teachers and counselor at our daughter's high school called our daughter a crazy name and "he" behind our backs and then would not stop when we learned of it. This is a serious psychological intervention/playing shrink and not something anyone should do with another's minor child. Yet, the do. All the time. And, they call it "Let the child lead". Or, something. We parents were the dinosaur bad guys which created triangulation with our daughter. Love reigns in our family once more but all of this has to change. And, there need to be professional consequences for many - including Doctor Jason Rafferty, Doctor Jack Turban, Satanic Panic Doctor Diane Ehrensaft and Admiral Richard Levine.

But, I agree that the ROGD travesty needs to be viewed in the context of SEL/DEI/"Social Justice" replacing basic learning in school. Schools do not have a right to take up any of that. How did this get decided without parents even having a say? The State does not own our children but it is sure trying...

Expand full comment

You may be interested to know that

Jason Rafferty anagrams to 'jr foe fry Satan'

Jack L. Turban anagrams to 'burnt jackal'

Diane Ehrensaft anagrams to 'her define Satan'

Rachel Leland Levine anagrams to 'led real evil channel'

Expand full comment

Over here in the states I would like to see a President DeSantis next - but at least if it's Trump he is likely to fire Admiral Doctor Richard First Female Rachael Levine - Assistant US Heath Secretary and Child Mutilation Enthusiast.

Expand full comment

The Jewish Pioneers of Sexual Degeneracy in 1920s Berlin . . . by Michael Walsh . . .

IN 1919, Magnus Hirschfeld and Arthur Kronfeld, founded the “Institut für Sexualwissenschaft” (Institute for ‘Sexual Research’) in Berlin. Both were active in the German Communist Party and were prominent members of Berlin’s Jewish community.

A multitude of degenerate services were offered at the institute, including the first surgical sex changes in modern history, abortions, lectures and ‘sex counseling’, room rentals, a large library of pornography and erotic literature on every possible perversion (including bestiality and pedophilia), and a Museum of Sex featuring a wide array of homosexual fetish items, dildos, “masturbation machines”, etc.

The institute hosted tens of thousands of visitors each year, including school class field trips. Hirschfeld was a notorious sodomite, popularly known in the Berlin gay scene by his cross-dresser name Tante Magnesia.

He also founded a committee for gay rights and wrote and published many degenerate books and journals, including Jahrbuch für Sexuelle Zwischenstufen (Yearbook for Intermediate Sexual Types). In fact, he’s the sinister figure that coined the term ‘transvestite’. Hirschfeld campaigned to end the Berlin police department’s arrest of cross-dressers and prostitutes . . .

https://nationalvanguard.org/2019/06/the-jewish-pioneers-of-sexual-degeneracy-in-1920s-berlin/

Expand full comment

The point about "overcoming" vs "accommodation" is so on the mark. We need to quit teaching kids to fear being uncomfortable or challenged and start teaching how to think critically, solve problems, and conquer difficulty.

Expand full comment

Many parents today have a hard time watching their children suffer even in normal ways, as part of natural growth. We've convinced ourselves that life is meant to be comfortable, when in reality it is a challenge. We need to educate and encourage parents to be okay with their kids discomfort in order to allow them to authentically grow.

Expand full comment
Dec 23, 2023Liked by Abigail Shrier

I'm Get X and we didn't have therapy back then, except for most outlandish cases. My mom died when I was 15 and my dad quickly remarried, and I hated the new "evil" stepmother. There was a rocky period for sure, I was even depressed for several months. But I went to college, moved across the world for grad school and lived my life without therapy until mid-40ties, when I started to hate my meaningless corporate job so much that I couldn't do it anymore. I went to a shrink who diagnosed me with ADD and prescribed Zoloft. The drug immediately made me feel even worse. I stopped taking it, quit the hideous job, got some new training and found the job that generally agrees with me, I actually even like it. Bottom line - glad we were taught resilience when we were growing up in the 70s and 80s. Kids nowadays are snowflakes.

Expand full comment

Pop culture has been making girls and women feel bad about their bodies forever. Dissatisfaction with our bodies and who we are is very real. Approaching the problem by saying "all you have to do to feel better about yourself is take cross-sex hormones and have major surgery to rearrange your sex organs" is insane.

Expand full comment

As a former Corrections Officer in a maximum security prison who then became a therapist. Also as a male whose dad committed suicide when I was six years old. I can say I am not your typical therapist and I am an outsider in the profession.

I intensely dislike most other therapists. Other therapists are overwhelmingly neurotic and extremely emotionally sensitive women. The idea that you should help a client stand up on their own two feet. Build some grit and transition out of therapy is considered toxic. Good therapy also involves confronting distorted thinking.

Therapy too often becomes a life long crutch, rather than help to get better.

Excessive anxiety is usually a lack of confidence. Depression is often being stuck and lacking direction in life. These are not hard for a good therapist to fix.

Some problems like PTSD, Anorexia, Gender Dysphoria, OCD are more durable and can take a long time to treat.

Expand full comment

I think parents in general should channel more of their inner Fran Lebowitz.

"Your responsibility as a parent is not as great as you might imagine. You need not supply the world with the next conqueror of disease or major motion picture star. If your child simply grows up to be someone who does not use the word "collectible" as a noun, you can consider yourself an unqualified success."

Benign neglect is wildly underrated. Ensure they don't have unfettered access to the cesspool called internet, feign interest in grades and daily location, ensure 6pm family dinner is an absolute rule, remind them that nobody likes a drama queen, feed them, clothe them, love them, "only ask them what they want for dinner if they are paying...."

"Don't bother discussing sex with small children. They rarely have anything to add."

In short, treat them as poorly educated adults, but with more hope in a 12 year old than a 32 year old, and they will surprise you, take responsibility, and become adults.

Having a rancid alcoholic father and untreated bipolar mother with a good aunt as distant backup seems to have done fine for me.

Expand full comment
Dec 23, 2023·edited Dec 23, 2023Liked by Abigail Shrier

In my child's forth grade class, the teacher asked each child how are they feeling on a scale of 1-10 during normal class time. after kids give their answer the teacher asks each child to explain their answer.

i cant imagine any teacher from my childhood asking this.

Expand full comment
author

That specific exercise is more harmful than people know. I discuss it in BAD THERAPY.

Expand full comment

Abigail, I can best this story. I’m currently enrolled at a local university for an MA in Creative Writing. Last semester, our prof began each course meeting by polling us to rate our mood: Excellent, Good, or Poor and explain our choices. Our ages ranged from 22 to 67. So ridiculous.

Expand full comment

Ugh!!!

Expand full comment
Dec 23, 2023Liked by Abigail Shrier

Ridiculous. Feelings are not truth. They should not rule us, nor dictate how we show up in the classroom, unless there are major trauma is happening for the child.

Expand full comment

My kid's teacher on the last day before Xmas break asked everything to say one thing they were excited about for Christmas and one thing they were worried about. Bad bad bad.

Expand full comment

Explain?

Expand full comment

Why i think the teacher is wrong to do that?

Expand full comment

Therapists are the secular world's version of priests or pastors, and they're way worse at the job priests or pastors used to do.

Expand full comment

Therapists are 'the rapists', raping people's minds. 'atheists pr' is a very apt anagram of Therapists.

Expand full comment

Is there a movement of people who sue psychologists? I reported the one who pretended to treat my daughter for a HIPAA violation and he was eventually fined over $10,000, by HHS, and listed on their web site. Though that did not help my daughter, at least he was harmed for his incompetence. We have a duty to make life hard for incompetent therapists. Report them; make formal complaints against them. Most people simply do not believe their efforts can have an effect, but they do. File formal complaints. In time politicians will recognize this as something useful too. DEI is dying now because many many people kept making it harder and harder for them to continue. Reason does eventually win out.

Expand full comment

Didn’t the Tavistock Center in Britain have to close because of so many lawsuits against them?

Expand full comment

Only about a quarter or third of the way in, but am reading “TIME TO THINK, The Inside Story of the Collapse of the Tavistock’s Gender Service for Children” by Hannah Barnes. It’s incredible to learn that so many recruited into the business saw very questionable things going on but thought they were just ignorant of whatever the experts knew and just kept following along. I am expecting the author to delve into the impact of social media that catapulted this “science” into the horror show it now is. (A once rare condition of gender dysphoria became practically epidemic and at the same time as so many other problems with young people--see studies by Jonathan Haidt, Greg Lukianoff, et al, concerning teem depression, anxiety, suicide.)

Expand full comment

Psychotherapy is not based on real science, despite the fact that Freud said it was to be the new science. It is nothing more than generally agreed upon observational correlation. And the team that agrees are highly politically biased. The DSM is not based on any Randomized Trials.

Expand full comment

I wouldn’t be as definitive as your statement here about this and am certain many clinicians would take issue with you, but certainly there is much left open to personal observation, interpretation, and opinion in the field. You might be interested in this: https://www.psychdb.com/teaching/1-history-of-dsm

Expand full comment

Great article. My perspective is generally influenced by Szaz and a rather dour view of the chemical imbalance view of personality disorders. I certainly recognize that schizophrenia and bipolar and so forth have biological markers, but I am not at all convinced that most personality disorders have biological causes.

Expand full comment

I differentiate personality disorders from mental and/or emotional illness. The former may involve structure, the latter may involve chemistry, or each have components of both structure and chemistry. I agree that the knee-jerk to drugs as “treatment” is in essence malpractice. CBT is empirically effective, however. But it takes time and expertise. 🧐

Expand full comment

Another comment... If you don't yet, consider following Dr. Vinay Prasad whose article today is pretty incredible for the admission concerning science in it! https://www.sensible-med.com/p/fraud-distortion-and-truth-in-science

Expand full comment

> It’s incredible to learn that so many recruited into the business saw very questionable things going on but thought they were just ignorant of whatever the experts knew and just kept following along.

Well, when the whole premise of what your doing is absurd, how can anything else come off as any more "questionable"?

Expand full comment

Sounds like a good one! I’m excited about Haidt’s new book too.

Expand full comment

Abagail, my story goes way back to the 60s when my sister had a "nervous breakdown". I was pretty young but she was acting strange and this was Main Line Philadelphia. So off to the shrink she went. 50 years later, after she has been on lithium for decades, we were on a walk and she causally told me that her psychiatrist had told her (when she was about 14 years) that our parents didn't love her. I was, of course, stunned. I had and have no reason to not believe her. My wife and I have other heart-breakings stories with young people we loved and still love who left our lives right after seeing a psychologist. Something about our affections causing stress. In studying the history of psychiatry and psychology and its inter-weavings into the more authoritarian political frameworks, I found as, course, you and many have found, that the destruction of the family is at the top who of their list and I am sure this "virus" infects most who practice in the psych field - whether knowingly or unknowingly. Brock Chisholm and his ilk state this emphatically and boldly in their mission statements in the 40s regarding psychiatry. Knowing this does not heal our pain but it helps to see that this infection is really rooted into our modern society. Thank you for being so brave.

Expand full comment

The Jewish Pioneers of Sexual Degeneracy in 1920s Berlin . . . by Michael Walsh . . .

IN 1919, Magnus Hirschfeld and Arthur Kronfeld, founded the “Institut für Sexualwissenschaft” (Institute for ‘Sexual Research’) in Berlin. Both were active in the German Communist Party and were prominent members of Berlin’s Jewish community.

A multitude of degenerate services were offered at the institute, including the first surgical sex changes in modern history, abortions, lectures and ‘sex counseling’, room rentals, a large library of pornography and erotic literature on every possible perversion (including bestiality and pedophilia), and a Museum of Sex featuring a wide array of homosexual fetish items, dildos, “masturbation machines”, etc.

The institute hosted tens of thousands of visitors each year, including school class field trips. Hirschfeld was a notorious sodomite, popularly known in the Berlin gay scene by his cross-dresser name Tante Magnesia.

He also founded a committee for gay rights and wrote and published many degenerate books and journals, including Jahrbuch für Sexuelle Zwischenstufen (Yearbook for Intermediate Sexual Types). In fact, he’s the sinister figure that coined the term ‘transvestite’. Hirschfeld campaigned to end the Berlin police department’s arrest of cross-dressers and prostitutes . . .

https://nationalvanguard.org/2019/06/the-jewish-pioneers-of-sexual-degeneracy-in-1920s-berlin/

Expand full comment