My New Book - On the Dating and Mating Struggles of Gen Z
I've conducted well over a hundred interviews. I'm looking for more.
Dear Truth Fairy Readers,
As I mentioned in yesterday’s post, I’m hard at work on a new book—about why the dating and mating life of the rising generation veered so desperately off course, and what we can do to steer it back.
If you’re a young person on the dating market, the parent of one - or a therapist, counselor, social worker, or teacher who works with Gen Z and has insights into their dating struggles, please get in touch! Reach me at philosophicalinvestigations@protonmail.com. I’m excited to talk to you.
xo,
Abigail
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Hi Abigail. I read your last post and have a few things to suggest. I'm not sure that gen-z needs more rom-coms as much as it needs some willingness to accept women and men are made different, or for lack of a better term: gender roles. Your comment about your husband and how he treated you points this out. He didn't marry you for your driving skills, I suspect he was more focused on other things and you probably (in part) married him because he is capable and you trust him.
I don't think gen-z has this. Whatever feminism killed, social media buried.
I'll give an example from my own life. I was married for 14 years to a woman I loved, but she ran into an old boyfriend on social media and was frustrated that I wasn't who she wanted me to be. After the inevitable fling, our family was destroyed and she went back to school, and started getting educated... next thing you know she is fallen for the cult of leftism and now lives alone with our 23 year old son who never finished high school. She will probably be alone the rest of her days, playing girl boss battle with everyone she meets, blaming me, and coddling our son.
I'm remarried to a beautiful woman that I enjoy and we are happy, but (keeping the post on track) we both experienced the dating world of today, and whoa, feminism and social media has changed everything. People don't connect in the real world anymore, it's all text and the women live in some other reality. Point: gen-z and even the progressive gen-x have fallen into a world where they don't know how to interact with the opposite sex. Hell, they don't know how to interact with anyone, they probably aren't even sure who they are. In other words, rom-coms are downstream of culture and the culture is the problem.
Interesting just a day ago, prior to reading your articles, I was listening to songs from the late 60’s and early 70’s (I think it was Spotify B.J Thomas playlist), I use music to help take naps (getting old but never will be old). It struck me that these songs were about love, about needing someone, caring for someone, etc. I then thought about much of today’s music (Don’t ask the genre…Hip Hop?) and how crass and debasing they are to women and people in general. How indignant the songs are of our culture. No, I do not listen to much of it and do not want to. Back to the point, our, my, college dating and early 20’s had music that was so much different, even the hard rockers came out with live ballads. I do not know how we get back to a kinder, gentler America. Music influences culture and vice-versa, chicken and egg.