True, there’s nary a child that can grow up properly in a household without a strong, involved father figure. Are there occasional aberrations where a single mom raises a superhero? Sure….but a whole helluva lotta other stuff had to fall into place just perfectly to compensate for that missing Dad!
I raised two kids as s single mother -- and it was a tough slog. The first one, I tried to keep my journalism career going the other, I stayed home for a few years and wrote a book while he was sleeping. Guess which one struggles less? Number 2.
On the flip side - I grew up with a violent father and wish my mother had had the courage to leave.
Time, attention, living in service of your family and yes, well-adjusted fathers are the answer.
On the other hand, it depends. A woman who starts having babies at 16 years old with various boyfriends is certainly setting her children up for failure. One or two might turn out okay, maybe.
But a woman whose husband died (or even absconded), who works hard to support her one or two kids and doesn't go out looking for romance but knows her job is to be present for her family, will almost certainly be a successful parent. I know several in that boat.
Having a father around is a very good thing, don't get me wrong. Children do best in two-parent families. But much depends on who those parents are. There are two-parent families that produce boys who shoot up their schools.
Obviously, Bob. But in regard to one- vs. two-parent families: My point is that some kids have one parent and turn out well, and some have two parents and turn out badly.
Rearing children is hard; having a spouse usually helps -- a lot.
If there is no father, find stand in. A man who will be a role model.
True, there’s nary a child that can grow up properly in a household without a strong, involved father figure. Are there occasional aberrations where a single mom raises a superhero? Sure….but a whole helluva lotta other stuff had to fall into place just perfectly to compensate for that missing Dad!
I raised two kids as s single mother -- and it was a tough slog. The first one, I tried to keep my journalism career going the other, I stayed home for a few years and wrote a book while he was sleeping. Guess which one struggles less? Number 2.
On the flip side - I grew up with a violent father and wish my mother had had the courage to leave.
Time, attention, living in service of your family and yes, well-adjusted fathers are the answer.
On the other hand, it depends. A woman who starts having babies at 16 years old with various boyfriends is certainly setting her children up for failure. One or two might turn out okay, maybe.
But a woman whose husband died (or even absconded), who works hard to support her one or two kids and doesn't go out looking for romance but knows her job is to be present for her family, will almost certainly be a successful parent. I know several in that boat.
Having a father around is a very good thing, don't get me wrong. Children do best in two-parent families. But much depends on who those parents are. There are two-parent families that produce boys who shoot up their schools.
The vast majority of children do _not_ shoot up their schools. Multiple things have to go wrong before they do that.
Obviously, Bob. But in regard to one- vs. two-parent families: My point is that some kids have one parent and turn out well, and some have two parents and turn out badly.
Rearing children is hard; having a spouse usually helps -- a lot.
Numbers are important. The way you put it too many people will think they are even remotely similar. In fact the difference in outcomes is huge.
Mass school shootings in the style of Columbine are very rare. Activists lump them in with other crimes to make them seem more numerous.